Every morning at the gym I run into Dan, a young, hard-working guy with a lot of potential and the desire to pursue his dream of becoming a fishing guide. But like most of us, he spends way too much of his time hanging around the people that like him just the way he is. And to be clear, none of those folks believe that being a fishing guide is a “realistic” way of earning a living.
It takes a lot of courage to plant your flag in the ground and declare to the world, “This is what I want to do with my life!” But it takes even more courage to distance yourself from the people who are bent on having you stay exactly the way you are, especially when those people are family members and your closest friends.
Over the years I’ve carefully monitored the energy and intentions of the people I allow into my life. And I don’t hesitate to hit the “un-follow” and “un-friend” buttons in cases of energy incompatibility, because dragging doubters along for the ride drains the substantial energy I need to overcome the inertia of comfort and fear.
I love Jim Rohn’s quote:
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with!”
Now, think about the people you’re closest to. Which of them supports your effort to discover your purpose, whatever it is? And which members of your “top five” would rather see you live their version of your life?
While distancing yourself from the doubters, it’s also essential to surround yourself with people who support your vision for your life, if you want to do the work you feel called to do. Those are the folks that will listen when things are not going as you planned, hold you accountable for your vision, and cheer for you when your vision comes to fruition.